Yesterday I was reading a book and it quoted these verses and it struck me… look at what the bible says men and woman want from each other…
- What a MAN finds attractive in a woman from the Song of Songs
- What a WOMAN finds attractive in a man from the Song of Songs (this post)
First take note of the question… and remember that the question AND the answer is written by God (this is scripture). Look at the words I have highlighted… they are all about strength.
9How is your beloved better than others,
most beautiful of women?
How is your beloved better than others,
that you so charge us?
10 My beloved is radiant and ruddy,
outstanding among ten thousand.
11 His head is purest gold;
his hair is wavy
and black as a raven.
12 His eyes are like doves
by the water streams,
washed in milk,
mounted like jewels.
13 His cheeks are like beds of spice
His lips are like lilies
dripping with myrrh.
14 His arms are rods of gold
set with topaz.
His body is like polished ivory
decorated with lapis lazuli.
15 His legs are pillars of marble
set on bases of pure gold.
His appearance is like Lebanon,
choice as its cedars.
16 His mouth is sweetness itself;
he is altogether lovely.
This is my beloved, this is my friend,
daughters of Jerusalem.
– Song of Songs 5:9-16
She also sees him working for them and their future and she loves it…
2 My beloved has gone down to his garden,
to the beds of spices,
to browse in the gardens
and to gather lilies.
3 I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine;
he browses among the lilies.
– Song of Songs 6:2-3
and a few verses later he confirms he had his mind on work
11 I went down to the grove of nut trees
to look at the new growth in the valley,
to see if the vines had budded
or the pomegranates were in bloom.
– Song of Songs 6:11
She wants strength because she can rely on him. She wants him to work and to provide for her. She refers to him as her friend: “this is my friend“. She speaks over and over about his strength, and also about kindness or gentleness in his eyes “His eyes are like doves”. Doves are gentle and kind. Inside this hard working man who has strength, she still sees kindness when he looks at her.
That my friends is God’s view of what a woman is looking for in a man.
- A LOT of strength – this is the characteristic most repeated
- kindness, gentleness when he looks at her
- friendship with her
- he has a job and he works for their future