What is desired in a man is steadfast love, and a poor man is better than a liar. – Proverb 19:22
”As in water face reflects face, So a man’s heart reveals the man” Proverbs 27:19
Men… brothers… the state of your heart is vitally important.
Do you know what God’s advice to a wife is? He asks a wife to submit to her husband. He also asks her to let her husband be her head, just as Jesus Christ is the head of the church.
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. – Eph 5:22-24
He also asks her to mould herself to her husband, reverencing him:
let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]. – Eph 5:33
“Reverence”… how many of us men deserve to be reverenced? We all want it, but how many of us behave in a way that causes someone to want to do that?
Wouldn’t it be awesome to have a wife who does this? What an incredible privilege to have someone support you in this way. But wait… there’s a catch. I have heard women say so many times that if their men loved their wives AS Jesus Christ loves the church THEN they would happily submit to their husband.
That is so important to understand, that it begins with us. If we are leading, if we are loving, if we are giving of ourself… then our wives (in my case my future wife, since I don’t have a girlfriend at this time) will gladly love us in this way.
What is it those women ask for? What kind of love? God tells us…
However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self – Eph 5:33
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her – Eph 5:25
And here is a command to husbands that I think we might not have seen before. We all know that women fall in love through their ears. When you speak lovely things to your wife, she responds. The bible says use your words to cleanse her, to
So that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word, that He might present the church to Himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such things [that she might be holy and faultless]. – Eph 5:26-27
There is a high call on our lives men. Rise up. When the bible says to cleanse your wife with the washing of the Word, it doesn’t just mean your words, but it actually means the Word – which is scripture. Scripture is our sword. Speak the truth of Jesus Christ over your life, over her life, over your marriage, over your children, your house, and family and friends.
You are the warrior. You are the head. It’s a high calling. It’s not compatible with being passive.