YOU are the one who must FIRST be pursuing Jesus Christ and pressing into the things He has for you.
If you are walking in that way, then she can see who you are and where you are going, and she is able to make a decision to a very important question: “can I submit to this man, or not?”. It’s a decision that will affect the rest of her life, for better or for worse.
But if you are not walking in the way He prepared for you, then how can she make her decision?
[born anew] that we may do those good works which God predestined (planned beforehand) for us
[taking paths which He prepared ahead of time],
that we should walk in them [living the good life which He prearranged and made ready for us to live]. – Eph 2:10
Did you see the verbs in that passage? DO. TAKE. WALK. It’s words of action. There no words such a wait, check out what other people are doing, worry about how it looks to others. No. It’s DO, TAKE and WALK.
So brothers, WALK IN the paths He planned beforehand for you. Then she can see what you are doing and who you are and where you are going… and she can decide if she is willing to join herself to you.
In another post I will share with you how God sees your bride, or future bride. The reality of this truth might just cause you to sit up straight and pay more attention to the beauty that He has provided in your life.