Recently I spent some time with a wonderfully loving family. Today I was talking with my relationship counselor, asking what it takes to grow such incredibly happy and compliant children as that family has.
It’s not luck when you have THREE great kids. One or two could be genetic, but not three. Three means that the family has done something right.
My counselor said this incredibly wise thing to me… the greatest gift a parent can give to their kids… is to love the other parent.
Wow. So true. The kids grow up in a safe environment. They learn to recognize good love. They see respect being modeled to them. The know to find another person who will respect them or want them. They grow up with balance and safety.
I guess this is why the bible says:
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her – Eph 5:25
Even so husbands should love their wives as [being in a sense] their own bodies. – Eph 5:28
He who loves his own wife loves himself. – Eph 5:28
But the bible has EVEN MORE good things to suggest about how we can relate to one another! (These are paraphrased from Eph 5:15-21)
Live purposefully and worthily and accurately, not as the unwise and witless, but as wise (sensible, intelligent people), making the very most of the time [buying up each opportunity]
do not be vague and thoughtless and foolish, but understanding and firmly grasping what the will of the Lord is.
At all times and for everything giving thanks in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ to God the Father.
Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One).
(Paraphrased from Eph 5:15-21)
Look at the wonderful lives that God wants us to live. It’s extravagant and exciting. For some of us (me included) it seems a long way off. But it’s not. Every journey begins with one step. One person. One “thanks honey!”. One smile. One hug.
We can do it!