This is a repost from late last year in 2006. I had posted it to my other blog.
Nurturers and providers
As far as I can see women are designed to be nurturers and therefore what they desire is a self-confident and strong male. It makes sense. The stronger and more capable we are, the more emotionally softer and more femine women can afford to be.
In this way, the health of the home begins with a man being a man, this releases the woman to be a woman (and not to have two roles, part man).
Men bring home the bacon (by hunting if need be) and women raise the kids. Kinda makes sense that they need someone determined to be able to earn and survive, while they are raising kids with kindness and love.
From what I can see, women respond to strong males, males who appear to know what they are doing, where they are going and why. Women can’t know for sure if the man is healthy inside, they try to evaluate it based on our behaviour: mainly through self assurance. If the man is kind then all the better!!
In this way it’s remarkably easy to be an attractive man.
My other thought is that I’ve learned that women have a characteristic that really makes sense out of their behaviour. They are always making their homes or rooms nice right? They paint their toenails. Etc. Why? They have a built-in drive to improve things. This makes sense if you think that they are designed to nurture children. So they always improve things… they buy nice clothing, they see the best in something or someone and then look to improve it/him.
An insecure man could take her improvement suggestions as criticism, but it’s probably just her, figuring out how to improve things.
Conversely a man will judge a woman’s ability to care for children by how she cares for herself. Kinda makes sense huh?
If God is not in the relationship, the woman’s drive for improvement could result in materialism and her efforts to improve people could spill over into controlling them with crticism.
The man’s desire to bring home the bacon could result in greed, his greater physical strength could be used to dominate others.
Our faith in God and our attention to our moral behaviour keeps things in balance – I hope.