To learn to be an overcomer… God has to permit something to challenge you in your life. How can you learn to be an overcomer if you have nothing to overcome? How can you learn to be a warrior if you have no war to fight?
Like most men, I have struggled with lust. I think it’s every man’s battle.
I once met a man who said he had NEVER EVER struggled in this way. I was in awe for just a moment… but then realized that he was pretty much useless in the Kingdom of God because he could not relate to anyone else. He has no idea what we go through, so he can’t help us walk through it.
As we overcome our particular issue(s) it will later on help many many men around us. That doesn’t make the problem good, no, the problem itself is bad. But God promises that He causes ALL things to work to the GOOD of those who are called by Him. (That’s you and me!)
So the problem we face as men is bad, yes, but it will work to the good. Why? Because we CAN overcome this AND WE WILL… and then we can go on to set other men free.
And if you’re battling lust, believe me you’ll have a full time job if you decide to help others. Porn is ripping up men and women in this world – and it’s just got started.
Christian homes around the world are like Nehemiah’s city… they have no walls and so the enemy is invading again and again. We as men have to learn to put up walls around our homes and defend those homes and the precious people in those homes. If we don’t, who will?
The experience of learning to overcome… it’s undeniably a tough growth experience. It includes
- healing our inner selves and thinking of ourselves in the right way – a Godly identity,
- removing the hooks that sin connects into (usually low self esteem and rejection etc.),
- it also includes growing up into being a stronger person and saying NO,
- it includes fighting back against the enemy (learning to use the sword),
- it includes getting into a band of brothers for support and reinforcement,
and lastly…. when you have done those things for yourself, it then includes learning to fight for others.
God has permitted trouble in our lives ONLY so that He can grow us and train us and we can then go on to fight for and set the people around us free. It’s not easy. It’s not quick. But it’s worth it. If we don’t rebuild the walls and then help others rebuild their walls… who will?