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What makes men and women sexually compatible?

I’m reading an online book called “Get the ring” (get the CD on Amazon).

In this quote the Rabbi is identifying one of the pitfalls in dating.

There is an objection that ‘I won’t know if I’m physically, sexually compatible with the person unless we actually practice and try things out and see if we are physically, sexually compatible’.

The reality is that when two people are completely compatible, emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, they love being with each other. So that is the platform on which a healthy, enjoyable physical relationship is built. And ultimately, that is the determinant of how good the physical relationship is, not the size of his muscles or the nature of her technique.

One very healthy couple who I once counseled made the comment to me that often they feel the skin gets in the way. So that is a really good sexual relationship, and that’s only built on this total emotional commitment.

So those people who feel they have to try each other out physically in order to know if it’s going to work, they’re naive. They don’t really understand what makes good sex.

They don’t understand that the key component is an emotional component, and that requires, from the beginning of the relationship, cultivating deep respect for each other. More…

To me this makes a lot of sense – that trust and deep respect for one another results in far better love making than simple physical attraction. I’ll be the first to say that finding someone who is emotionally capable of making such a commitment seems to be a long shot! But if we’re prepared to do it, then we’ll find we’re compatible with a woman who is als prepared to do it.

As the leaders of the home, it’s up to us to choose the direction and lead the way, no matter if it’s in the warm-and-fuzzy areas emotions, or in terms of war… we’re still the leader.

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3 thoughts on “What makes men and women sexually compatible?

  1. I totally agree. It’s nice to see a blog like yours on here for men. Keep it up!

    Posted by cumingirl | April 23, 2008, 2:12 am
  2. My girlfriend and I are having relationship issues at home. We only been dating for about a month and she got pregnant so spite of not dating long we still decided to get together. We have been arguing about the same problems about our relationship averaging every coup/e months or so for over 2.5 years and we just can’t seem to forget about the past. My girlfriend said we just are not compatible but i think that since we didn’t get a chance to know each other. Since we both had to take on the responsiblility to take care of kids we now lost the beginning piece of our lives in our relationship. Who is right and can this love come together again.

    Posted by jason | August 19, 2011, 11:04 pm
    • Hi Jason

      Thank you for talking to me and sharing this. I’m not there and I don’t know you guys personally. But if you want my advice, ask her to take a moment and read each of you these two books. One for her. One for you.

      Understanding The Purpose And Power Of Men http://www.amazon.com/Understanding-Purpose-Power-MUNROE-MYLES/dp/0883687259

      Understanding The Purpose And Power Of Woman http://www.amazon.com/Understanding-Purpose-Power-Woman-MUNROE/dp/0883686716

      I suggest that society does a VERY bad job of explaining to men and women how to do relationships. But the bible has God’s perfect design. And after reading many dissapointing books on this topic, after listenining to courses and sermons, I think this author gets it right.

      So take a moment to pause and read these books, talk about if this is what she wants from you, and you decide if it’s what you are willing to do… and then with a GOOD SOLID FOUNDATION under your feet, you guys can build a life.

      That’s honestly my very best advice and it’s what I would do if I was in your shoes.

      Thanks again for sharing this with me. God bless you! Mark.

      Posted by Mark Wilson | August 20, 2011, 9:50 am

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