We in the west grow up with society telling us we men have to have good skin, great clothes and all these things to find a great partner for life. In my short career as a single man I have receive lots of advice on this issue and I’ve come to a few enormous discoveries.
Looks, clothes and being thin or whatever is icing on the cake.
For a man to be attractive to a woman it’s about the cake, not the icing.
In my humble short lived experience woman are attracted to the following things
- Confidence in a man
- Self assurance
- Inner strength
- Dignity
- Emotional maturity (<– take note of this one!)
- Respect for her as a person
I’ll hack my way through these items in some posts.
Mark these things you list are worldly and the question is worldly as well. I think you need to restate the question into something like;
What are Godly Women attracted to?
Godliness
Prayer
Fruit of the Spirit
Evidence of living for God
Accountability
She will have prayed for her mate so the union will be one of coming together in the name of Jesus Christ for His glory.
Hi MAC. Is a nuclear power reactor worldly? Is it wrong? What about a light bulb? Worldly? Wrong? Some things are just what they are. God created attraction. Attraction is what it is. And it’s ok. May God bless you, Mark.
Posted by M.A.C. | June 4, 2007, 4:23 pmI am a women, and I think you are exactly right. God created physical attraction between a man and a women, and he created the qualities that allow physical attraction to be there. While it’s important to keep the focus on God, I don’t think your list is worldly. I think the point is that guys should only develop these qualities through God and not try to create them on their own (bc they will fail.)
One note: if a guy hasn’t shown high moral standards in his previous behavior around other women – that is a huge turn off.
Yep, fair comment. Fair call. I would just say this… if you’re looking for perfection, don’t look for it in the church. The church is full of people IN PROCESS. God breaks people, He shapes people, He reaches out to the masses of unwashed and since we are all sinners, if you want to be accepted with your limitations, consider accepting that your mate will also have limitations. May God bless you! Mark.
Posted by JH | July 6, 2007, 11:25 pmJust a question, altho it is a fact ALL women find men who lust after them unattractive, they are attracted to men with a sense of humor, (cocky funny works a charm), confidence and who are self controlled, and respectful. is there scriptures pointing this out?
Posted by Stuart | September 14, 2010, 11:23 amHi Stuart.
Not ALL women find any one thing attractive. What works for any one woman, depends on her age, culture, expectations, family, religion and many more crtieria.
What the bible does say is that God wants men to cherish, protect and cherish their wives. And God says that women should admire their husbands. I know that I respond very strongly to being admired. And I think that women respond very strongly when men cherish them.
God bless you!
Mark.
Posted by Mark Wilson | September 14, 2010, 11:29 ami think its true in what you say mark,but i can say im ready for a relationship yet my surroundings isnt. normally women around me do not care for the cake but pretty much the icing.but when they realize the icing was fake too late they end up being pregnant or married and at the end unhappy.while chumps like us grow and are ready but end up alone because we did not conform to the fakeness of what society wants us to be pretty much fake .
Posted by Anonymous | January 17, 2012, 3:16 pm